A dry spell in your love life can truly be depressing, especially when you are surrounded by other singles dating. Before you go to that downward spiral of despair, regret and hopelessness, hold your head up and give love another chance. You might just be dating the wrong people. Here is a simple ritual for singles to attract love into their lonesome:
Set a calming, peaceful and romantic mood.
Turn your room or living space into a romantic den. Put up some candles, and lay some warm blankets or maybe play some jazz music. Once everything is set up, sit down and enjoy the mood you just created. With a warm drink or your favorite comfort food, reflect on your past experiences. A pen and a journal will help as you write down everything that you want to be grateful for, even those things that caused you hurt but taught you some valuable lesson in the end. This process (or ritual) lets you officially put your past behind and be ready for a fresh new start. Thank God and thank life for these experiences as you let yourself realize that they happened for a reason – and that is to help you mature and make you a better person, ready to meet someone to share your life with.
Turn a new leaf and imagine your perfect love story.
Write down your ideal love story. Imagine what it would be like to have your ideal partner. Imagine how it will feel like. This will give you a vision, a reference that you can turn to while looking for the right one.
Pray for that ideal partner.
Write a note to that special person, an “invitation” if you may, to come into your life. Keep it in a safe place until the day comes. Pray that God will let you meet that right person, the one that He specifically chose for you, and thank Him in advance for the opportunity to have someone to love and loves you back.
Follow these steps and you will sure have a new perspective on love. Take action once you see yourself in a dry spell. Maybe you need to take time for yourself. When you are ready, join dating sites or go on blind dates that your friends arrange for you. When you’re open minded, you are basically telling the universe that you are ready for love, and you start meeting new people.
Everyone gets first date jitters. Men and women alike get anxious and commit embarrassing dating mistakes. Guys in particular, for the most part, feel more pressure, being the ‘man’ in charge. That pressure can lead to stutters, over planning, and ultimately, a really bad date.
With some guidance, though, first dates can be a great way to put yourself out there and enjoy the company of your prospective romantic partner. Just avoid two of the most common mistakes that lead to the pitfall of a supposedly great time:
1. Too-planned-a-date
It’s great to have an itinerary; in fact, it is ideal to plan ahead. However, if you pack too many activities into 1 to 3 hours of your first date, chances are you won’t have the time to really get to know each other while worrying about your next plan and all. You will just end up constantly looking at your watch so you won’t miss your reservations.
Just a simple dinner date is a good place to start. If you don’t want the usual dinner date, ask other singles for first date ideas. Better yet, do something that shows your personality. You can also do some research to find out about things that interest your date; this would make you seem very thoughtful. Remember that planning is key to a smooth sailing date. Don’t go at it without a roadmap at all, but don’t over plan either.
2. Fishing for a second dates
Perhaps every single person about to go on a first date hopes that there will be a next one; that is the whole point of the date, after all. However, it’s exactly expectations like this that ruin a first date. Don’t think too far ahead. The key is enjoying the moment and getting to know the person. Avoid continuously sizing up the situation. If you are having a good enough time, ask her out again at the end of the date. Wait it out until the date is about to end before you drop the question, or if you can hold it longer, until after you part ways. This will make you look a little more mysterious than you really are.
singles dating is a very exciting phase, minus the dreaded first date experience. However, you don’t have to look like a complete fool if you know how to act on your first date. If you are ready to get back in the game, why not browse through some dating sites or get out and try to meet new people? This will help you get back in the saddle and see what’s out there.
