First Date: Dread Them or Enjoy Them
Everyone gets first date jitters. Men and women alike get anxious and commit embarrassing dating mistakes. Guys in particular, for the most part, feel more pressure, being the ‘man’ in charge. That pressure can lead to stutters, over planning, and ultimately, a really bad date.
With some guidance, though, first dates can be a great way to put yourself out there and enjoy the company of your prospective romantic partner. Just avoid two of the most common mistakes that lead to the pitfall of a supposedly great time:
1. Too-planned-a-date
It’s great to have an itinerary; in fact, it is ideal to plan ahead. However, if you pack too many activities into 1 to 3 hours of your first date, chances are you won’t have the time to really get to know each other while worrying about your next plan and all. You will just end up constantly looking at your watch so you won’t miss your reservations.
Just a simple dinner date is a good place to start. If you don’t want the usual dinner date, ask other singles for first date ideas. Better yet, do something that shows your personality. You can also do some research to find out about things that interest your date; this would make you seem very thoughtful. Remember that planning is key to a smooth sailing date. Don’t go at it without a roadmap at all, but don’t over plan either.
2. Fishing for a second dates
Perhaps every single person about to go on a first date hopes that there will be a next one; that is the whole point of the date, after all. However, it’s exactly expectations like this that ruin a first date. Don’t think too far ahead. The key is enjoying the moment and getting to know the person. Avoid continuously sizing up the situation. If you are having a good enough time, ask her out again at the end of the date. Wait it out until the date is about to end before you drop the question, or if you can hold it longer, until after you part ways. This will make you look a little more mysterious than you really are.
singles dating is a very exciting phase, minus the dreaded first date experience. However, you don’t have to look like a complete fool if you know how to act on your first date. If you are ready to get back in the game, why not browse through some dating sites or get out and try to meet new people? This will help you get back in the saddle and see what’s out there.
